Friday, April 21, 2017

Lara's Books of 2017

I've decided to keep a log of the books I read this year.    Keep checking back here for updates as the year goes on (the link will be on the side).    

Books Read 

1/3/17--"Between Parent and Child: Revised and Updated: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication" by Dr. Haim G. Ginott

A fairly quick read, I found this book a bit repetitive, but enlightening all the same.   I was especially intrigued by the idea that we need to be careful as parents not to diminish our children's feelings.   It's not wrong to feel angry, jealous, sad, disappointed, or frustrated, and we shouldn't punish them for having the emotions.  Instead we can listen to what they're saying, acknowledge their feelings without judgment, and help them to find acceptable outlets for their negative emotions.   I was also interested by his admonition not to praise children.    I already knew that labels and name-calling were harmful to children, but I had not really thought on the dangers of praising children and how that puts pressure on them to feel like they always have to succeed.  This often leads them to not want to try new things because they are worried that they will not live up to their parent's praise.     I didn't agree with everything Dr. Ginott recommended, especially some of the parts about sexuality, but I would definitely recommend this book to parents looking to improve their communication and relationships with their children.

1/14/17--"The Nightingale" by Kristin Hannah
(March 2017 book group selection)

Main characters:  Vianne Rossignol, Isabelle Rossignol (Juliette Gervaise), Gaetan, Antoine Mauriac, Sophie Mauriac, Madame Babbineau (Micheline), Julien (the son), Julien Rossignol (the father).

An emotional WWII tale, I found this book both very engaging and emotionally exhausting to read.  This story juxtaposes the lives of two sisters, Vianne and Isabelle,  in France as they endure the hardships of WWII in their own ways.  They both suffer and thrive in different ways and ultimately  find ways to fight back against the horrors of that time and place.  I felt that the story was told a bit choppily and there were a few times that I felt like a plot detail or character wasn't quite believable, but overall it's a beautiful portrayal of the bonds of family and the resilience of the human spirit to overcome.    Definitely have a box of Kleenex nearby!

1/19/17-- "The Buried Giant " by Kazuo Ishiguro

Characters:  Axl, Beatrice, Wistan, Edwin, Querig (the dragon), Sir Gawain.

Is it a fable?  Maybe a fantasy?  Or a retelling of a legend?   I never could quite tell.    This book came highly recommended to me by several people, so I think my expectations were too high.    The story was intriguing....to a point, but I found the characters hard to relate to, the dialogue stilted and repetitious, the plot slow and difficult to follow, and I finished the book with as many questions as when  I started it. And if this tells you anything, I actually spent the first chapter or two of the book wondering if the main characters were anthropomorphized rabbits.    They were not, but it was indicative of the vague, rolling way the story was being told.   Having said all that though, the book has themes that are  thought provoking.   Since finishing it, I've found myself pondering on the role of our memories in relationships, daily life, and forgiveness.    Would I recommend it?   Yes, but only if you promise to call me afterward so we can discuss it more.  :)      

1/26/17--  "The Reason I Jump: The Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism" by Naomi Higashida  
(February 2017 book group selection)

Characters:   Naoki (the author)

Written by a thirteen-year-old autistic boy about the challenges of being autistic, this book is unique in every aspect.   The author addresses a series of 58 frequently asked questions that people wonder about the behaviors of those with autism.   Interspersed among his answers to these questions are thought provoking short stories that add even more insight into the workings of his brain.   I do not have close associations with someone with autism, but I found the insights he provided to be eloquently expressed and helpful to consider when interacting with any child who is still learning to communicate effectively.   It also helped me to be more understanding of those in my life who are caregivers for someone with autism.  The challenges that both the autistic person face and the caregiver in seeking understanding from each other is real and not to be diminished, and this book is a tool that I imagine has helped many people in that path.   I recommend this book for anyone seeking greater understanding about how autistic people, and arguably any child who is just learning to connect with their minds and bodies,  see and process the world. 

1/28/17--"The Goose Girl " by Shannon Hale (READ-ALOUD WITH MY 11-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER)

Characters:  Ani/Isi, Geric,  Selia, Enna, Conrad, Ungolad, Talone.

I read this young adult book several years ago, but thoroughly enjoyed the opportunity while my 11-year-old, Ellie, was sick for a few days, to read it aloud to her for the first time.    It's a delightful tale of fantasy, adventure, betrayal, growing up, and overcoming adversity.    It starts off slow, but quickly engages you and leaves you rooting for the misplaced heroine all through her adventures and misadventures to claim her rightful place in the palace.  The characters are well-developed and easy to connect with.     And although it has a somewhat predictable ending, the plot has enough twists and turns to keep you engaged until the final pages of the book.   I highly recommend it for a fun, easy read for teens or adults.

2/9/17-- "The Bookseller: A Novel" by Cynthia Swanson
Characters:   Katharyn/Kitty, Lars, Frieda, Missy, Mitch, Michael, Linnea, Mom, Dad.
 (April 2017 book group selection)

This was a quick read for me and had me drawn into the storyline from the first pages, however it left me a little wanting in the end.   Basically, the main character, Kitty, is leading life as a single thirty-something in the 1960's.   Her life isn't exactly what she planned, but it is okay.  Her and her best friend own a bookstore together, she has a great relationship with her parents,  and she finds fulfillment in her life.    Without warning she starts having vivid dreams about an alternate life where she is married to a good man, lives in a big house, and has triplets.  These dream life seems appealing on the surface and she is fascinated by this alternate life, but up close she sees that things aren't all that they are cracked up to be.   As time passes, the lines between her dream life and alternate life continue to blur together and soon she doesn't know what's real and what's not.   It's not super well-written, but I did end up liking it okay and would recommend it for someone looking for a fluff read.

3/15/17--"Elephant Company: The Inspiring Story of an Unlikely Hero and the Animals Who Helped Him Save Lives in World War II" by Vicki Constantine Croke

Dang it!   I wrote up a review of this right after I read it and it didn't save, so now I'm trying to recreate after an entire month and it's not near as detailed as I would have liked.

I really enjoyed this book.  It's the story of Billy Williams, an adventurous young British man that goes off to work in the teak forests of Burma.    He has no idea how this adventure will change his life forever, mostly because of the elephants with whom he will be working closely.   I loved learning about the intelligent and complex creatures that elephants are and also getting a glimpse of WWII from a different perspective than I've ever read before.    Billy is a likable enough character, but it's really the elephants that keep this book riveting.    I highly recommend this book for anyone who enjoys history or animals or both.  



4/20/17--"The Gene: An Intimate History" by Siddhartha Mukherjee

Ever since teaching genetics to a high school level biology homeschool class last fall, I've been interested in diving in a little deeper to understand the science of genetics better.   We had read  "The Double Helix" by James Watson as part of our studies and that whetted my appetite even further.    At about 500 pages of dense scientific information (dense to a non-science person anyway), this book was a bit of a slog to get through, but well worth reading.

The book basically goes through the history of genetics, from ancient times, to Mendel's work with pea plants, to the eugenics of the early 20th century, to the discovery of DNA, to modern work with embryonic stem cells.  It covers important figures, pivotal discoveries, and some of the ethics of genetic studies.   Though it was definitely a slow read for me, it wasn't because it was unnecessarily boring or poorly written, it was often because what he wrote and how he wrote it was quite thought provoking to me.   I kept stopping to reread parts just to understand it better and it was more than a few times that I read parts out loud to my poor husband who sadly did not match my enthusiasm.

  It's clear that the author is not religious, but I actually found my faith strengthened as I read it.   The beautiful simplicity within the mind-boggling complexity of cells is simply too much to have happened by happenstance.    To think that the perfect "ingredients" to create life could have randomly arisen from the elements and eventually evolved into human beings without a divine overseer of it all is too far of a leap for my mind to make.

One of my favorite aspects of this book is how he addresses the ethics of disease.    The technology to eradicate certain diseases from the gene pool is already available, but at what cost?    What is disease really?  What is normal?   Who are we to determine whether a "diseased" person deserves to exist or not?    His story of meeting a teenage girl, Erika, with a devastating genetic disease was especially poignant to me.   The technology is such that her genetic disease could have been diagnosed in-utero and her life terminated before she was even born.   Yet he called her "by far, among the most articulate, introspective teenagers that I have ever encountered."
"Should we consider allowing parents to fully sequence their children’s genomes and potentially terminate pregnancies with such known devastating genetic mutations? We would certainly eliminate Erika’s mutation from the human gene pool—but we would eliminate Erika as well. I will not minimize the enormity of Erika’s suffering, or that of her family—but there is, indubitably, a deep loss in that. To fail to acknowledge the depth of Erika’s anguish is to reveal a flaw in our empathy. But to refuse to acknowledge the price to be paid in this trade-off is to reveal, conversely, a flaw in our humanity."
All in all, it was a beautifully written book that affected me profoundly.   I found myself wanting to discuss it with everyone I met.  Too bad most people look at me blankly when I excitedly start talking about the history of genetics and ethics.   Have you read it?   Give me a call....let's discuss!



On my short list of books to read:

"The Emperors of Chocolate: Inside the Secret World of Hershey and Mars" by Joel Glenn Brenner
"The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer" by Siddhartha Mukherjee
"Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood" by Lisa Damour











Thursday, April 13, 2017

Randomness March/April 2017

Here's a little sampling of life from the last few weeks:

Ellie turned 12!    You've never met someone so excited about her birthday as Ellie.   She's been coming to Young Women's with me for 4-1/2 years and to finally be official was one of the most exciting days of her life.   For her birthday celebrations, we took her to Beauty and the Beast,   ate cream puffs, had a birthday cake (from Costco), and chicken potpie.  It was a simple day, but Ellie was as happy as can be.
 

Pete and Mika and family showed up unexpectedly one Saturday to bring Ellie a birthday gift.   Ellie was probably as excited about seeing her cousins as she was about receiving a gift!


We've been taking advantage of the spring weather and hiking as much as possible.   This was on the CCT trail one day.  


This was at Scott's Run today.   


The Virginia bluebells were everywhere and were a beautiful sight!


I brought AnnaLisa to the airport this morning and took this adorable picture of her...

Emma went on her first date today!  It was a short day-time date where they went mini-golfing.    She seemed to have had a fun time.  

 This missionaries get their packages sent to our house, so they can get receive them more quickly than if they were sent to the mission home.   We like the excuse to see them more often.   :) 

Birds kept getting into our vent, so we covered it with screen.   Too bad they ripped holes in it faster than we could fix it.    We will have to look for a different solution for next year!   


We had a fun Napoleon Dynamite themed activity for a combined mutual activity last week.  We had the hardest time deciding what to do until Kelly thought of doing the Napoleon Dynamite theme.    

WE invited the youth to dress in costumes...


and had  a series of stations set up around the gym with activities relating to the movie Napoleon Dynamite.   It was a super fun time for everyone.    

Last, but not least, Cami is staying in Switzerland for another transfer!   She's still companions with Soeur Goreeba and seems to be happy as can be on her mission.   She approaches her 1/2 way mark in a couple of weeks!   



Monday, April 3, 2017

The OTHER Missionaries in Our Lives

Cami's been on her mission about 8-months now and we miss her more than ever, but have found that the more time we spend with the missionaries from our ward, the more connected we feel to her across the miles.   

Sisters Calvert and Inman are not only excellent missionaries, but I think would be great friends with Cami if they all knew each other.    We see them at least a couple of times a week and, as you can see,  they love Rocky (probably more than I do).  

 Nicole (the girl in the center) joined the church in December and is one of the reasons why we spend so much time with the missionaries.  Her dad, Billy, is taking the lessons and is scheduled to be baptized in April!  They are all at our house most Wednesdays for the discussions.   

It really has been a cool experience to be a part of the missionary effort here at home, while Cami is doing her part in France and Switzerland.  

Nicole recently gave a talk at a missionary fireside.  A few youth from the ward came to show their support! 

The sisters have come over a few times to do family history at our house.  

And they even brought over a birthday present for Ellie!  Speaking of which, Ellie, in particular, has a really special bond with them.  

We all went to watch one of Nicole's lacrosse games, but she ended up with a concussion and didn't play.  

So, we just froze together....

and enjoyed being together.  

Meanwhile, our sweet missionary is doing great things in Lausanne, Switzerland!  

We miss her.   

Friday, March 31, 2017

Getting Back to It!

After Spencer's diagnosis with AML in 2012, Glen and I both packed on the pounds.  I think we both had some PTSD and probably some mild depression going on too.   Finally, about two years ago, I was at my heaviest weight yet and my blood pressure was high.  

The high blood pressure was a wake-up call to me that it was high time to get a handle on things, so we started exercising again and being more cognizant of what we ate.   It's been a slooooooowwwww process regaining our strength and getting back to it, but I feel like this summer I  finally hit my stride and  I'm about to the weight and fitness level I was before Spence got sick.    It was so exciting to fit into my old clothes again, that I decided it was time to buy some new clothes.   Here are some of the outfits I've got for myself over the last several months.   






And this is usually about how I feel when I'm about to get on the treadmill!   

But I broke my record today and am feeling quite proud of my six mile an hour average (especially since about 15 minutes of that was walking)!    



Right now I walk about 1/2 hour three days a week, walk/run for an hour twice a week, and try to get on a 5-7 mile long walk on Saturday. Next thing I want to do is sign up for a race.  Probably just a 5k or 10k and maybe eventually another half-marathon!   Race or not though, my main goal is to stick with it long term.    I still have some pounds I can lose, but my goal at this point isn't hitting a certain weight, it's about my long-term health and being fit.   

Go us! 

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Thursday, March 30, 2017

New Beginnings 2017

After 4-1/2 years as Young Women's president of my ward, there have been a lot of things that have gotten a lot easier as time as gone on.   For instance, big events, like New Beginnings and Young Women in Excellence.   They used to stress our presidency out to no end, but now they seem to come together with a lot less stress.  

 I think this year's New Beginnings was the best yet.  It had a theme of Ask, Seek, Knock.  The decorations were simple, but cool enough to have "wow" factor.   The girls really came through and did their parts well and I loved that the theme really came together and we all left that night feeling inspired about how to seek answers our questions.  

Here are the wonderful Young Women I have the privilege of serving ... 

Ellie was thrilled to be one of the newbies (girls that turn 12 this year),  which meant that she got introduced to everyone and got lots of special attention!   She is sooooooo excited to be a part of YW!  

It was also so cool to see Nicole (who was just baptized in December) be introduced too.   Her and Maria even dressed in matching dresses and were cute as can be together! 

I am blessed to work with these wonderful women.  They've been in the long haul with me and I am grateful for their great ideas, willingness to work hard, and friendship!  



Here's the introduction that Emma read about Ellie:   
(Ellie opted to have her skip the part about her seizures)

When Ellie turns 12 in a couple of weeks, she will become the first new beehive in our ward in almost a year and a half. Energetic, cheerful, and creative, Ellie is the youngest of the five Goold kids and as such is an expert when it comes to dealing with annoying older siblings and delayed bedtimes. She loves all Broadway music, but especially Hamilton. When she’s not listening to Hamilton songs, that means she’s probably SINGING Hamilton songs, perhaps while cooking herself a quesadilla or playing with her Legos. Ellie is a world traveler who has been to 13 different countries and about 40 states, but she still hopes to get to Florida and Australia someday too. One thing Ellie would like everyone to know is that she has a form of epilepsy that causes her to have frequent seizures that cause her to pause in the middle of what she’s doing. They’re nothing to be nervous about, but if you happen to notice one, just be patient, and when her seizure is done you can remind her what she was saying, and Ellie will pick right back up where she left off. Ellie is very comfortable talking about them, so if you’re ever wondering something about them feel free to ask her questions. Just remember to be nice and be patient. And, on a more light-hearted note, I’ll finish up with a funny story about when Ellie was young. When she was a baby, she loved to suck her thumb. One time we were visiting one of our cousins who is only a couple weeks younger than Ellie and they were both lying on a blanket on the floor taking a nap. A little while later we checked in on them and found that Ellie was wide awake and had wiggled her way around and was happily lying there, not sucking on her own thumb, but happily sucking on her cousin’s big toe. All the while her cousin was still soundly sleeping. I promise, though, that she hasn’t sucked anyone’s toes in about 11-½ years or so! We are so happy that after years of tagging along with Mom and me to mutual, that Ellie will finally be an official young woman later this month. Welcome to Young Women’s, Ellie!


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