Showing posts with label service. Show all posts
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Tuesday, August 13, 2024

More Summer Happenings (Part 2)

Okay, here's hoping Blogger is working a bit better today.  This is  try #2 trying to get this blog updated with our summer happenings, since I have been struggling to stay in a blogging routine this summer.    (part #1 is here)

Shortly after picking up Ellie from Idaho, we headed to Saint George for Glen to finish up his last couple of days working down there and for Ellie to get her wisdom teeth out at an oral surgeon who is a colleague of Glen's.   

She was very giggly and talkative coming out of the anesthesia, but, much to her own relief, she didn't end up saying anything too incriminating or embarrassing.  She did, however, insist on coming into Target with me to pick up her prescriptions.  I tried really hard to talk her into staying in the car with Glen, but she was very determined and just jumped out of the car.  She was very friendly and waved at everyone she saw, but otherwise didn't do anything too embarrassing.  And she was in a city far from home, so the chances of seeing anyone we knew were remote at best! 

 WE spent the next three days mostly just holed up in the hotel room while Glen was at work.   I was a bit tired of hotel living after those three days, but it went well and Ellie recovered quickly.  

We doordashed some soft foods...


And got ice cream a couple times, because what oral surgery recovery is complete without some ice cream for the occasion? 

The day AFTER her surgery, we headed to the Utah Food Bank and joined with lots of other families from the dental community in Saint George to work for a couple hours. Ellie's oral surgeon was actually at the project too and was very impressed at how well Ellie was doing. 

We laughed a little that the project for the night was  bagging up dog food, but it's very cool that they help people with food insecurity feed their pets too.    

  

Our job for the night was taping together boxes.

We headed on home from Saint George  on Wednesday night, then on Saturday morning, I took off with my mom and Heather for Star Valley for my Mom's 54th high school reunion.  Yes, 54th.  Why they picked this particular year to celebrate, I have no idea, but they did and a whole bunch of people came, so whatever. 

My Mom was very nervous about going, which was why I was there.  Heather wanted nothing to do with attending the reunion and Mom really didn't want to go by herself, so I was her +1.  It ended up being a great experience for her, so I'm glad I went, despite not being very excited to go initially (mostly because of the drive).    I helped make this class picture happen by arranging people and by going outside to get the banner for them to hold. 

 
Her graduating class only had 98 people in it, so this is actually a GREAT turnout, especially considering their ages!   Recognize the circled person in the following picture?

That's Sister Bednar.  The Sister Bednar-wife of a modern day Apostle.   She gave my mom a big hug and was kind as can be...of course.  

I also sent a few postcards from the cute little Grover post office.   Sadly I didn't actually find any Star Valley postcards, but I took a few from home to write along the way.

We also dropped my cousins' house, who both live on the same property my mom grew up on in Grover.  Tara and Kolt are a few years younger than me, so I wasn't super close to them growing up, but it was great to see them after so many years!   They are both so sweet!

The next day, the Grays (friends from Virginia), came to church with us  and stayed the night before they ventured back on their way home. 

Emma went to a Utah YSA conference one weekend recently.  I know nothing about it, other than Elder Uchtdorf spoke (I think) and they were trying to break a Guinness Book of World Record record with the most signatures on a birthday card for President Nelson.  He turns 100 next month.   I have no idea if they broke the record or not.    I also love Emma's temple selfies from the camera roll.
I've had a very full mailbox lately.   One day I had 8 postcards in there...mostly from Postcrossing, but one from my niece, Anna, and this one from my sister, K, which might be one of my favorite postcards ever.  I love it!
Last week was Alpine Days and we took an after-dinner walk down to the auto show.  This beat up looking one made us laugh...
This 1968 Buick Wildcat was refurbished by an old man in a neighboring.  He was very talkative and excited to tell us all about it!
I really liked this whole pink set up! 
And we were informed that this Corvette was the most valuable of all the autos in the whole show.  It's a 1963 all original (even the tires) and apparently it's worth about $500k, although we also heard reports that it may be only $200k!  In any case, we were very careful not to scratch it!  

The other week, Glen was teaching Alma 36-38 for his Gospel Doctrine lesson. The theme of his lesson was "Jesus is Mighty to Save", however  I had no idea  the theme of his lesson when I picked this as the picture for the cover of the program that week.  I thought that the little boy's use of the word "Saver" instead of "Savior" was very sweet and went along perfectly with the theme of  Glen's lesson.  Someone in the class even brought it up on how powerful a child's simple testimony can be. 
 

So this blogpost was a pretty good effort as a catch-up post, but I'm not done yet. 

Stay tuned for more to come...

Wednesday, August 2, 2023

Thailand HXP: A Life-Changing Experience

Ellie and I just returned from an experience that was completely life-changing.  Words and pictures could not adequately capture the depth of what we experienced in those 2-1/2 weeks, but here is my attempt to document it here on the blog for our posterity and for anyone else considering a similar experience for themselves or a child.

I went as a parent chaperone for an HXP trip to Chiang Mai, Thailand.  That meant, me and a dad were the adult presence for  19 teens and the 2 young adult trip leaders.    The young adult trip leaders were the ones officially in charge, but I quickly became the Mom presence/nurse/trip documenter.   The kids turn in their phones at the beginning of the trip and my documentation of the trip on instagram was the only contact the parents had with their kids for those 2-1/2 weeks, so I felt a lot of pressure to make sure I did it as well as I could.  (Click here and look for GROUP 4 posts to see how I did it).    My documentation proved to be a little out of the box, but I got good feedback from the parents and I felt like I was still able to be present with the kids, so I am satisfied with how it went.  
 
The purpose of the trip (in my own words) was to travel to Thailand, work with locals to help build a school, to visit local sites, experience the Thai culture, interact with the Thai people, support the local economy, to strengthen our relationship with God, and to develop friendships with people who had previously been strangers. 

I was stretched outside my comfort zone a million times over, but in that stretching have an increased love in my heart for the 21 strangers who I now consider my bonus sons and daughters and for the Thai people who captured our hearts so completely. Theirs is a beautiful, welcoming, and peaceful culture and I’m grateful for the opportunity that HXP provided, so that we could share those experiences together.

Here's a little glimpse of our time there:  

This may be my favorite picture from the whole trip, because it encapsulates so well our time there.  We got uncomfortable and  dirty, we got up close and personal with uniquely Thai people/places/animals, we strengthened relationships with one another, and we had magical once-in-a-lifetime experiences together.  



Being the trip documenter was a role I simultaneously loved and hated at the same time.  While I did enjoy trying to capture the trip in a comprehensive and creative way that would resonate with the parents and eventually with the kids after it was over,   I was also a little jealous of the screen detox the kids got and I definitely did not!     The picture collages became my way to minimize my screen time and maximize the number of photos I shared. They were a HUGE timesaver for me and I got to the point where I could whip out one of those collages in 2-3 minutes flat!  
 
We started the trip in Krabi—a coastal town near Phuket  that had the loveliest clear waters I’d ever seen.   We island hopped, sea kayaked, snorkeled, and hiked.   It was a fun and relaxing way to start our adventures.  




Also, there in Krabi, we got to participate in a Thai cooking class, which was right up my alley! As you all know,  I love to cook and it was fun to make EVERYTHING from scratch—including the curry paste I usually buy premade from the store.   Much of the food ended up a bit on the spicy side, but I found it all delicious! 


After Krabi, we headed to the elephant sanctuary--one of the places I was most looking forward to visiting on this trip.  Ever since reading “The Elephant Whisperer” and “The Elephant Company,” I’ve been mildly obsessed with these intelligent creatures and it was a dream come true for me to meet them in real life! The elephant sanctuary is a place for elephants that have been mistreated in captivity to go to wander around the 40 acres and live the best life they can. We fed them, gave them a mud bath, and then rinsed them off.   It was magical!



We visited several Buddhist Temples in Chiang Mai and Bangkok while we were there and each was unique and beautiful in its own way. I loved that we had to remove our shoes and dress modestly to show our respect before entering.




We were the 4th of 5 groups that came through to work on the school this summer, so we ended up with more finishing work than actual building, but it was still hard labor that wore us out.    I’m under no delusion that any work we performed there at the school was essential, but we did work hard side by side with Thai locals (who often redid our work as soon as we finished), and that sweat and frustration was a huge part of what endeared us to the Thai people. Someday those sweet kids we grew to love so much will learn and grow in that school that we played some small part in building!



One of the nights, some  performers from Chiang Mai University came to show us some traditional dances.  We got to wear traditional costumes and then try out the dances ourselves.  
Another night, we went to the church and helped the missionaries with an English class and another night we participated in a Sports' night.  Both nights are run by the missionaries and dozens of people come from the community to interact with the missionaries and to practice their English.   It was fun to see our builders make some one on one connections with the Thai people. 



This was not an activity I would have chosen, but the Muay Thai boxing class resonated with many of the kids and it really was cool to see that it is a sport steeped in Thai tradition and respect.   Another night we attended a Muay Thai boxing match, which was quite an experience itself!  




This collage shows two separate activities—the Sticky waterfall, which rocks contained minerals that make them non-slippery. We walked up and down the waterfalls in our bare feet! Then there was the Grand Canyon water park. Totally not my vibe, but super fun for the kids.  The water park was exactly the same kind of place that Adam dislocated his shoulder on his HXP trip a couple years ago, so I was a little extra nervous.    Thankfully, we were able to avoid injuries.


Over the course of the 2 full weeks we were in the country, we went to 3 different night markets.  The elephant pants and shorts and the Muay Thai shorts were favorites among the builders.  There were also a lot of elephant figurines bought.    Between all the souvenirs we bought, the locals we hired, the places we stayed, the food we bought, and the classes we took, we were definitely supporting the local economy!


I already liked Thai food, and like it even more now that I’ve experienced the authentic deal, but I won’t lie..it’ll be a while before I want rice again!   I was able to eat most of the foods we encountered, but had a couple gluten filled meals (especially on travel days), where I had to eat the snacks I packed instead.    Here's a glimpse of some of the deliciousness we consumed along the way! 
 
 
And here are some of the crazy Thai fruits we tried....



About the durian ^^^^
We spent most of our days drenched in sweat and when I found a fruity popsicle at the local 7-11 (which are as ubiquitous in Thailand as McDonald’s are here in the US), I eagerly bought it. Too bad I didn’t know that durian is banned in public places through most of Asia for its malodorous scent! It smelled like a cross between armpit and gasoline. The good news was, that me trying it (and then letting all other interested people try it) proved to be great entertainment.  haha! 



Oh, how we loved the Thai kids at the school.   We were building an additional three classrooms for them, while they were in class across the courtyard.   Every lunchtime would end with some play time with the kids. It was very sweet to see how genuinely the builders enjoyed that precious play time and it was hard not to joy a little at seeing a glimpse at the caring, doting parents those parents will be someday.  The officials at the school (Mr. Wee and Mr. Boy) were exceedingly grateful for the work being done and we loved the goodbye ceremony and thank you notes the kids presented to us at the end of our time there.




One of my favorite aspects of our time in Thailand was the spiritual aspect.  We started and ended each day with devotional time and it was such a joy to see the growth in each builder as we dove into the scriptures together and discussed our true identities and God's love for us.   Each of us are in such different places in our spiritual journeys, but I think that each felt God's love more keenly as part of that experience.  I also  loved being able to attend church for two weeks in Chiang Mai.   The first week, we sang "Peace in Christ" as a musical number, the second week one of our builders bore their testimony and 2 builders sang together.  I loved the feeling of singing the hymns together --us in English, the locals in Thai.   We also were able to attend a baptism and visit the soon-to-be-dedicated Temple in Bangkok.  I feel like we got just a small glimpse of what a blessing that temple will be for the Thai people and it was a privilege to see it. 


 
“Love God, Love People” is the theme of HXP and this experience encapsulated that and much more!


I've had a protective wall around my heart for a long time now and I needed this experience and a relationship with these builders more than I knew.  Each of us are at such different places in our journeys in life, but  each came to Thailand with open hearts, ready to work hard, embrace the culture, and love the Thai people!  

Here are 20 REASONS I LOVED THE  BUILDERS (taken from my final instagram post about the trip)

1-they put away their phones for 2+ weeks to be fully present and engaged in a great work
2-they sacrificed a chunk of their summer to serve and love people they didn’t even know
3-they worked hard in the heat and humidity for hours a day
4-they made me laugh a million times over
5-they were vulnerable and shared their hearts with us at devotionals
6-they are full of spiritual insights and wisdom beyond their years
7-they looked out for the one to make sure everyone had a good experience
8-they showed compassion and patience when they played with and loved the kids at the worksite
9-they worked without {too much} complaining
10-they kept the 7-11s of Thailand in business for another year
11-they took a huge step outside their comfort zones to come to an unfamiliar land with strangers to do a good work
12-they were willing to accept critiques on their work (plastering corners is hard)
13-they are all in different places in their relationships with God, but each one is a shining light in this often dark world
14-they weren’t afraid to get dirty as they worked
15-they taught us new teen slang. I’d say we slayed it. W
16-they taught me that portrait mode is lame and .5s are awesome
17-they rocked those elephant pants like no other Thai tourist before them
18-they were patient with us old people trying to keep up with 21 energetic young adults
19-I loved watching how they interacted with each other on the plane ride home when they easily could have been lost in movies and other entertainment. It’s clear that, after two weeks of laughing, working, crying, and playing together, a group of strangers has become friends.
20-they opened their hearts and loved selflessly

I am proud of them and feel like this intense time with them was one of the huge reasons why I needed to come on this trip.  They are a big part of why this was as impactful an experience as it was for me and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

I love you, Aidan, Annie, Ashton, Brooklyn, Chloe E, Chloe G, Ellie, Eva, Gordy, Haylee, Holly, Jack, Jacob, Josh, Kate, Landon, Malia,Paul, Sarah, Sophie, Stella, Talan, and Tyler! Thanks for inspiring me again and again, while we served the people of Thailand together! ❤️🇹🇭❤️


Thursday, January 30, 2020

What We Did on Our Humanitarian Trip to Uganda

 

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”   Margaret Mead
I've had a ton of people ask us for more details about the humanitarian trip to Uganda our family participated on this past Christmas. It was an incredible, life-changing experience, and I don't think my words or pictures could ever do it justice, but I thought I'd try to share a little glimpse of it here for those who are curious.    (Read this other post if you're interested in hearing about how this trip came to be)

We went on this trip  with high expectations and it exceeded them all.   We'd forgone our Christmas presents to help make the trip possible and I have to say that it ended up being the perfect mix of work and play, especially for the more hesitant of us in our family. Just when we were completely exhausted from the long days of service, we had the opportunity to do something fun. I thought that the organization we worked with (Family Humanitarian) has the right idea--get people to the country, introduce them to the locals, and get their feet wet in doing some good. Though the work we did was focused on a small group of people, I wholeheartedly feel that the work we did was impactful for the people we interacted with AND now they've got a whole big group of vested people who care and are looking for ways to continue to contribute and make a difference. People who have been on the ground, seen the problems first hand, and developed a love for the people are ones that are poised to make an even bigger impact in the future. 

Uganda has one of the highest birth rates in the world, and only 22% of the population has access to electricity and about 30% have access to clean water. Most of their population lives in rural, agrarian communities, and as such very few Ugandans are able to attend school for very long. They’re needed for help taking care of household tasks and with the care of their siblings (I can’t even tell you how many young kids we saw taking care of babies).

  One day we sat with a family to de-kernel corn with them--a task which was surprisingly difficult for us--and watched with amazement as their 4-year-old daughter was able to do it far more efficiently than we could! She'd clearly had plenty of practice.  And I have to say that after helping a family tote their {very heavy} water jugs from the local well about 1/2 mile away I was humbled to think how little thought we give to turning on a faucet here at home while they spend much of their time and energy getting the water their families need.    Additionally, many of the adults we talked to lamented that their families had not been able to pay their school fees and thus had their education cut much shorter than they wanted. Just like any parent anywhere, they wanted more for their children.

We had two main objectives in our service (in no particular order).

1.  help a local Uganda-based organization with clean water training and water filter installation

2.  help with projects at a school  that is being funded by Family Humanitarian but is being built primarily by local skilled labor


 Here's a glimpse in a little more detail what each of those looked like...

OBJECTIVE #1:  Clean water and hygiene training:
We worked with a Ugandan organization on this project. The local organization had a structure in place, as well as a list of who in the community hadn't received the training and the water filters yet. They had us, from Family Humanitarian, teaching a series of lessons on hygiene and clean water to small groups of locals. Because we were in small groups, we had the opportunity to be interactive and to answer questions. They shared with us some of the struggles they face accessing clean water and how heartbreaking it was for their children to be sick with diseases such as cholera, typhoid, dysentery, all of which still kill people in Africa regularly and can be prevented with better access to clean water. It was eye-opening and humbling.
After the training, we were able to work one-on-one with people and show them how to use and install a simple water filter affixed to a bucket. Though these water filters are simple, they are also durable, effective, and 100% operable and maintainable independently by the families that received the filters. They last about 10 years and filter out 99.99% of harmful pathogens. The families we left the filtration units with can simply pour their water (straight from the river, community well, or wherever) into the bucket and VOILA clean water comes out through the filter ready to drink. Family Humanitarian donates the buckets and water filters and coordinates with the Ugandan organization to distribute them. The people are absolutely thrilled to receive the filter and bucket and many expressed how much it meant to them to know that their families would have clean water now. 

OBJECTIVE #2:  Help with projects at a primary school being funded by Family Humanitarian:

"EDUCATION IS ONE OF THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO REDUCE POVERTY AND IMPROVE HEALTH, GENDER EQUALITY, PEACE AND OVERALL STABILITY." 


The school is being funded by Family Humanitarian but is actually being built by locals. We were there to help with several projects related to the construction and preparation of the school to be opened.
 
 We helped move some heavy materials to where they needed to be (many hands make light work), we helped build the latrine, built and stained some bookshelves, and most meaningful of all...got to help fill those bookshelves with books we'd brought from home! Family Humanitarian believes strongly in education over handouts and we were thrilled to be able to contribute to that school's ability to provide an education for the children in their community.


The community members were so EXCITED about that school being built and we talked to several proud parents who were thrilled that their children would have the opportunity to go to school for the first time. In fact, interacting with the members of the community that lived around the school was one of our very favorite parts about our time there. At any given time, some or all of our group was holding, entertaining, and playing with the children who swarmed us the second we stepped off the bus. We weren't allowed to give them food, candy, toys, or handouts of any kind, so they weren't clamoring for things, as much they were just clamoring to be held or talked to.  We colored together, painted their nails, played ball with them, sang songs and danced with them, read books, and just played like all kids everywhere like to play. 
 
 
 Most of the younger kids did not speak English yet and wanted to just hold our hands or jump into our arms and snuggle. Most of the older kids spoke at least a little English  and they seemed just eager to be near us and to talk to us. As a family full of introverts, being surrounded by people for so long was tiring, but our exhaustion was tempered with the awe we felt. These people had so very little--and were still glowing with happiness. 
  
I feel like I need to be honest that this trip did not come without difficult emotions. From the moment we arrived, it was painful to be confronted with our own privilege in such a stark way. It hurt to be surrounded by so many hungry children while we had backpacks full of snacks to eat between our three square meals every day. Thoughts of “are we really doing any good” were ample as we returned to our gated, guarded lodging (complete with a private chef and running water) each night while the kids we spent the whole day with went to sleep on the dirt ground. I can understand why so many people have concerns about "voluntourism" and whether humanitarian trips such as this one actually do any good. To people with those concerns, I would like to say two things:
  •  We were very intentional about choosing an organization  that aligned with our ideals and did what we believed was the "right" kind of service. Family Humanitarian is very cognizant of making sure that the service they support is impactful, sustainable, and does not foster dependence. They work side-by-side with Ugandan based organizations to make sure their service is making a difference where it matters and really focus on educating and empowering the locals to improve their own lives. I loved that they hire locals to lead the expeditions. Our expedition leaders, cooks, drivers, etc. were all locals. The actual builders and director of the school they are building are locals too.
  • Despite choosing the best organization we could find, we still felt our share of guilt and constantly wondered if we were really doing the most we could to help the people we were serving. I think that’s the whole point of trips like this; in battling these emotions we found an increased empathy for people who really aren’t so different from us. In the discomfort of facing our privilege, we were able to break down cultural barriers and exist with the Ugandan people in their reality as they welcomed us into their homes, communities, and lives. It is obvious that we gained just as much if not more from the people we were serving than they did… and I think that makes the importance of this trip even more obvious. We don’t serve just for others, we serve to change our own hearts.
We left our time there with blistered hands, clothes caked in the red dirt, and our hearts and eyes opened to the beautiful Ugandan people. I don't think anyone needed us to be there to accomplish the work that we did, but we needed to be there to let these experiences and people sink deep into the chambers of our hearts. We needed to see how much we take for granted in our comfortable lives. We needed to see that the people in Sub-Saharan Africa are just like the people everywhere else in the world. They are intelligent, loving, hard-working, and just want a better life for their children. We didn't change the world, but I believe that we absolutely did make a difference in the lives of the people with whom we were fortunate enough to work.   If you ever get the chance to do this kind of trip with your family, jump at it.    You'll never be the same.

“Do a little bit of good where you are. It is those little bits of 
good put together that overwhelm the world.”   
Desmond Tutu


 

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